Our strength grows out of our weakness
Reduce any weakness by increasing a positive approach to your life
Article by Malcolm Levene
Okay, you may be thinking – here he goes again. That would be an accurate thought. It’s said, through repetition we tend to eventually get it. This is so true for me. In fact, when presenting recently in Europe, I was talking again about a specific aspect of thinking and acting positively, when an attendee chimed in and said, “This weakens your weaknesses.” Though not exactly a unique take, it is one I had not thought of. Therefore, as is so often the case, I picked up yet another useful quote. In fact, the attendee was spot on. We do reduce any weakness by increasing a positive approach to our lives.
Now, I know how challenging it seems to adopt a positive mindset, particularly when it seems as though life’s throwing many negatives at us. In saying that, it is then that we need a positive approach more than ever. Think of it this way – I firmly believe we can transcend almost any negativity if we’re prepared to focus on what is working well in our lives. The most successful people tend to use their minds as a tool that will enable them to do better. This tool needs to be in constant use, otherwise it will lose its sharpness. In my experience, the most effective way to weaken any weakness we may have, is to remain focused on our strengths. I know I do, even when I’ve thought the chips were down.
So much so, even when it seemed to me that my life was far less good than I wanted it to be, that’s when I switched into my positive mindset. Now, I’m not suggesting that a positive mindset is a cure all. Far from it, I am suggesting it’s a method that’s highly likely to raise our self esteem, see our lives from a less emotional standpoint & enable us to see our bigger picture. In many ways, it’s to do with flexibility, big picture thinking, creative thinking and self belief. You may be asking, Is it easy? No, it’s not easy, if it were, everyone would be doing it. To begin our transition from uncertainty, disbelief or mistrust, try this exercise devised by Dr. Martin Seligman, Prof of Positive Psychology at the University of Pennsylvania, USA.
Here’s Mr Seligman’s exercise: First, breathe consciously, then when you feel relaxed, close your eyes and think of any five things you are grateful for. One thing could be a cheese sandwich. It really doesn’t matter what you choose to be grateful for. What does matter is that you endeavour to do this exercise once a day. I practiced this exercise for a week to see how quickly I could do it. I did so for a corporate client, who asked me how speedily it could be done. I managed to do the exercise in 22 seconds. When I told my client, they nodded approvingly.
Increase your self-belief.
Trust your intuition.
Be more flexible.
Focus on what is working.
Do the gratitude exercise.
Treat yourself as you would a best friend.